Thoughts on self love, abstinence from cravings of opposite gender, and learning to be patient? How does Buddhism say we should control our emotions towards opposite gender?
I follow Hinduism, not for its inherited customs but for the ideologies. Recently, I stumbled upon, and got inspired by, a post on r/Buddhism, and realized that it'd be the best place to ask this because Buddhism is all about sensory controls. I'd be obliged for any assistance.
I'm 21 year old, never had a real relationship, have a few close friends and to some extent I'm lonely in the "friendly" way, I've got my family to love and support me!
I have to have my mind focused on future and things that are about to come, but I get distracted. I crave companionship of the opposite gender, desire attention and appreciation. This is so frustrating because I keep getting infatuated with every person I see. I don't even want any relationship or commitment, I'm free and love this freedom, but then I think of a loving couple and wonder if I'd ever get in their place and begin to wander, wanting to meet people who'd give me the sensations of a relationship but without commitment. Love and relationships are my last priority but their emotions are so strong that they supersede my ambitions and goals. I'm so distracted and tired. I want to experience life as it is without rushing into it, with patience and hope that everything will be good in the end. I don't want to waste any other minute of my life thinking what a relationship feels like/what I would do if I were in a relationship. I overflow in emotions and let myself loose to any temptations, and waste my time.
My questions:
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In title of the post.
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What does Buddhism say about time and its utility? How do you "see" your time?
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