I'm having trouble forgiving someone who has caused a lot of pain in my life. How do I learn to forgive her?

To spare you the boring details, the mother of my child ended our relationship without warning on Valentine's Day this year, the day after our anniversary. This has led to an immense amount of stress and complications, as you can imagine.

I want to forgive her and approach her with compassion, but every time I think of her my immediate thought is, "No. She doesn't deserve it, you can't forgive her."

Are there any teachings that will help me on the path to forgiveness? Or is this just the sort of human thing that takes time?

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