How to cease specific suffering?

Here’s the background: a recent post here contributed to my revelation. To the right is me, ego and selfish and suffering because of desire. He doesn’t want me like I want him to.

If I do certain things to get him to want me, there is an entire group of people to the left who will suffer. And my suffering wouldn’t go away, it would change but it would still be there.

The solution is the cessation of my desire for him. That’s what will help me, help this group of people not to suffer, etc. I am motivated to do this because making that group of people suffer would be horrible.

I know the Eightfold path is the way to stop suffering/desire in general, but that seems daunting. I want to stop this particular desire and see how that goes...I am motivated.

But how do I do it?

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