How to deal with conflict skillfuly and not being a pushover?
Hi
Today in the subway of NYC a stranger came to me with a bicycle and was saying something I didnt understand. I said "what?" And he shouted with all his guts "Can you f*cking move so I can put my bicycle there?"
My heart went from 0 to 100. I moved and laughed nervously. I tried saying sorry and justify myself by alleging that I didnt understand him but he told me to shut up. Basically he made a scene.
After that, I smiled nervously and started breathing into my belly. Bringing conaciousness. Eventually the bad feelings disappeared instantly and my heart went back to normal.
Sometimes I feel like I am a pushover that let people talk to me like that but other times I feel okay for not letting things affect me by being passive. I am confused.
Did I act in a skillful way? Should I have been more confrontational?
Thank you
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